Why does Pain demand to be felt ???

By,

                                Shubham Srivastava.

                 Just a few days ago, i watched an awesome movie "The Fault In Our Stars". When i was watching it, i came across a quote which says that -

         "That's the thing about pain. It demands to be felt"

Who wants pain? Perhaps nobody but still everybody gets it sooner or later. It never matters that if you are a man with golden heart, if one is rich or poor, if one is good or evil, if one is healthy or unhealthy, if one is rational or insane, if one is in love or in hatred, if one is accepted or denied, if one has gotten everything or nothing, if one has family or not and if one is you or i. Pain has spared nobody.

           There are three questions which have arisen here. Let's start with the first one.

          From where does pain come from?

 Let me mention first that this is the simplest of all three questions but yet there are some nuances.
          Pain of course comes from bad things but it is not necessary because in some cases, good things also cause pain. It's like a ratio of 95:5. It means that if pain is caused by bad things 95 times  then it is also caused by good things 5 times.
You shall be thinking that getting pain because of bad things is quite lucid ( easy to understand ) but how is it possible to get pain because of good things? Let's take an example. Suppose you are going to temple/church/mosque for your own happiness, your own inner peace. You went there, you prayed and you felt good but when you are on your way of returning home in your car and  you are driving yourself; suddenly a man comes in front of your car from nowhere and an accident takes place. That man gets injured and that's the point. Though your intentions were good but still bad thing happened and you start to feel guilty inside and that accident takes away your inner peace.

             But yeah! It can be said that pain has more to do with bad things and less to do with good things. Here we saw that from where does pain come from; though getting pain from good things is quite rare and getting pain from bad things is spontaneous so the next question is -

             Why do bad things happen?

Have you ever thought about it? I thought about bad things a lot and what i feel is that happening of BAD THINGS in our life has three prospects. BAD THINGS can happen because of either of the prospects. 
              
             First one is KARMA. A quote says that Karma has no menu; you get served what you deserve and it is right. If we do bad then bad will come to us somehow sometime in our further life. If we do only good but still get bad then this is because our Karma is related to each other. Consider an example where a newly divorced couple is fighting over the custody of their newborn child. That child is only 6 months old and he has done nothing bad yet but still he has to suffer and he will be left with many questions by his parents. If mom gets custody then plenty of unanswered questions about dad and if dad gets custody then questions about mom. Just think that if you are searching for something in your room and that is missing like your mobile phone; you get tensed then how much restlessness that child will have to face in his future just because of his parents' deeds.

              Second one is the DUAL NATURE OF UNIVERSE. Most of the things in this universe exist only because of their dual nature. Like male-female, happiness-sadness, light-dark and many more things. So are the good and the bad things. If one has taken birth here then one has to go trough both phases, doesn't matter how good or evil that person is.

               Third one is the most important one. An English ethologist, evolutionary and biologist RICHARD DAWKINS in his book "THE MAGIC OF REALITY: How We Know what's Really True" says that - 
              BAD THINGS, LIKE GOOD THINGS DON'T HAPPEN ANY MORE OFTEN THAN THEY OUGHT TO BE BY CHANCE. THE UNIVERSE HAS NO MIND, NO FEELINGS, NO PERSONALITY, SO IT DOESN'T DO THINGS IN ORDER OF HURT OR PLEASE YOU. BAD THINGS HAPPEN BECAUSE THINGS HAPPEN.

So these were the three prospects of bad things taking place in life. Thanks to Mr. Richard Dawkins. He is just phenomenal in his own ways.
and last but not the least; the third and the most classic question.

               Why does Pain demand to be felt?

 If we look at it from biological aspect then it demands to be felt because of it's vulnerable nature. We have neuron cells in our body which transmit different kind of signals to our brain. If we get an injury then only because of these cells; we get to know that we are injured. If these cells will be missing from our body, we would never come to know about different kind of health anomalies in our own body like disease, injuries, wounds because in case of missing those cells, it won't pain anymore but our body would be in state of deterioration which can lead to death eventually.

                And if it is being looked at from a common aspect but yet a critical aspect then also pain demands to be felt. Like a quote says that WHEN ONE GOES THROUGH A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP THEN IT HURTS BUT ONE THING ALSO GETS CLEAR THAT WHAT YOU WANT AND WHAT YOU DON'T AND YOU WILL BE MORE ATTENTIVE NEXT TIME BEFORE GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP.

Until we won't feel pain, we won't get remedy either.
               If you have done a very big mistake; doesn't matter intentionally or unintentionally. If you don't feel bad, if you don't pine away for few days, if you don't scramble with your own self, if you don't get flustered by your mistake; until then you won't be able to learn a lesson that what you have to do and what is not needed from the very next time. If you are not feeling pain inside for your mistakes or if someone has deceived you in a bad manner, you will get yourself in trouble every time.

So never try to kill your mental pain which you are feeling inside. If you are in physical pain then go and get a pain killer and you will get relief in probably no time but in case of mental pain; never kill your pain, i repeat NEVER. Start to live your Pain as much as you can because that's the only way of getting remedy which will be effective for long time or for whole life.

                 A quote says that LESSONS IN LIFE WILL BE REPEATED UNTIL YOU DON'T LEARN IT. So if you have to learn the lesson for any certain issue then start to live the pain first. Don't run away from it. The more you will live the pain, the sooner will you get solutions for your problems and remedy for your pain. An another quote says that -

                   
                WHEN PAIN BECOMES UNBEARABLE THEN IT BECOMES REMEDY IN ITSELF.

The more you will feel pain, the more will it become unbearable and then you will get your all answers and yes! if you have not watched the movie '' THE FAULT IN OUR STARS'' then please watch it and you too will get some lessons.

May God bless you!!! Bbyee.........